8 Reasons to Overcome Porn Addiction and an Important Question to Ask.

8 Reasons to overcome porn addiction

Whether your young, old, male or female—you have either experienced yourself or know someone affected by the objectification of the opposite sex. One area that greatly increases this degrading of men and woman is the production and viewing of pornography.

8 Reasons

Reasons are behind our motivation to take action and is the beginning of my story of overcoming porn addiction.

My addiction was leading to destruction, effecting me at the core of who I was – a dysfunctional mess. As I began to pursue life, this addiction was costing healthy relationships and a future.  To obtain freedom we need good motivation. So, I believe what helped me to start this process was I wanted it will all my being. It took me about 6 years to overcome this addiction. Everyone is different and it could be a longer or shorter or a may even experience major setbacks.

Pornography is something done in the dark, a secret never desired to see the light of day. We see each other, but our thoughts are not seen. We hope the secrets won’t come to light. Yet, this is what we need to do. Jesus is the light and when we go to him we no longer remain in the darkness.(John 12:46).

Be careful to understand there is a need to replace this with good desires and relationships. If porn or sexual sin is removed without some support in place, depression or a strong reaction can come over you in a dangerous way. Please consider seeking professional help. And if a believer, please follow the Holy Spirit’s leading.

1. Drastically improve your relationship with God

One of the most important reasons to stop and overcome porn addiction is your relationship with God will drastically be improved.  When it comes to desire, it’s an either/or decision. You either desire porn or you desire God. Jesus masterfully illustrated this in Matt 6:24, ” “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” Jesus goes on to say, so, don’t worry about your life.

As I examined my life I saw I needed something, I desired and porn provided. There were many deep things I desired, one being affirmation from a father.

So, we need to go to God for whatever we need and not to worry. As long as you desire porn over God, your relationship with God will suffer. Our relationship with God is all satisfying, so we need to get rid of anything that hinders that relationship. Joe Dallas who wrote a book on this subject said sexual immorality “can gratify but never satisfy.”

2. You will no longer have to worry about being caught

Imagine yourself handing your phone, computer, or wherever you hide porn. Now imagine that same scene but now you are clean. No wondering if you forgot to delete something. It gives me great joy to know I have no worry letting someone use my computer or go into my room.

Going further, your relationships will have less worry and less drama because your building trust and healthy relationships with the opposite sex.  You will live out Rom 6:13,  “Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness.

3. Understand the ugly truth of your actions

Objectification means to degrade to a status of a mere object. The body of another person becomes just an object or way to end to fulfill a person’s selfish desires. Jesus taught that the inner thoughts are just as much a sin as the big ones. To clarify, all sin separates us from God, but some sins have bigger consequences for the here and now.  Jesus said, if you lust after a woman you have committed adultery, Matt 5:28. The same attitude I had and you may have with pornography is the same attitude of those that commit acts with bigger consequences like rape.

It is the same objectification that is occurring, acts of pure selfishness. Viewing porn is training yourself to see the bodies of others as mere objects for sanctification, far less important then who the person is. This realization could be an essential motivation for you and others to get rid of sexual immorality.

4. You will be useful to the Lord

If you would like to be used of God, removing sexual sin is important. The Great Commission is what the Lord wants us to participate in. Early on in my Christian life, I noticed how much my usefulness to God was hindered by my past involvement with pornography. Being able to communicate with people at a spiritual level is difficult with a mind that has been impacted by viewing porn.

Many, if not all, missions agencies have a requirement to be free from pornography. God wants his followers to be part of His mission to bring Him glory to all people. To take part in this plan we need to have an intimate relationship with the Lord, John 14:22. As mentioned above, having an attachment to pornography is going to greatly hinder that intimate relationship.

5. You’re sinning against your body

Paul talks about sexual immorality being a little different and he says that it is a sin against the body. I don’t know about you but I do not want to we doing something that’s hindering my life.  For men, it takes your strength. There are many articles out on this subject and I found a few recently. Viewing porn causing lasting changes in the brain – fightthenewdrug.org. These pathways, fortunately , can be replaced with something else over a time of sobriety. It creates a feeling of loneliness and affect sexual relations in real life relationships, wral.com.

6. Pornography can open you to demonic influence

A person may be opening themselves up to demonic influence through pornography. I think it is possible to go further and say a person may unknowingly be worshiping demons – idol worship. I don’t think this is popular or easy to explain reason, but I think it’s important. I do prefer to articulate things without mentioning demons and spiritual forces as its usually implied. It is necessary and good at times to be aware of.

In the Old Testament it speaks about Idols – other gods that people of the time worshiped. Isaiah the prophet states clearly, Isa 44:9, that they are nothing. In Deut 32:17, though, it makes the connection, “They sacrificed to demons that were no gods”. 
I saw something happening to me that is explained in this way.
For me, it was like I was more tricked by it, felt more shame, and at times it was like I was participating in some sort of spiritual transaction. That I was going to sexual immorality to receive something desired in return, a ‘blessing’, which describes idol worship. So, there could be some influence from demonic forces when seeking fulfillment from sexual sins and pornography.

7. Relationships will be healthy and thrive.

Sex bonds you to your spouse in profound and powerful ways. If a person is bonding with ‘porn’ – a fantasy – it will warp your understanding and recognition of healthy relationships. It took me a few years to notice what a healthy relationship looked like. I kept thinking there was something else or someone else, but it faded like a fog – a fantasy fog.

If your married porn will cause division between you and your spouse.  Healthy relationships involve being interdependent, porn and sexual sins are one-sided – the self is placed first. Also, those who watch pornography tend to treat women poorly and can even increase aggression toward women. Sexual sin costs relationships and future relationships.

In 2017 a study concluded that married men and women who use pornography are more likely to get divorced than men and women who do not, npr.org

I’ve heard others reasons like you will have ‘better sex’ for a motivation, albeit true I see it as an inferior motive.  Sex is temporary, to burst your bubble – there will be no sex in heaven, John 5.  We need better reasons, eternal ones and we can find those in God.

8. You will no longer be fooled and will be free.

If we are not free, then we are slaves. A person in the hold of pornography actually trapped, deceived by sin. Jesus said, “Very truly I tell you, everyone who sins is a slave to sin – John 8:34. 
Sexual freedom is portrayed as a strength, but it’s not.  You or people you know can’t say no – they are not in control. Sexual sin and viewing pornography is a sign of weakness not strength.

When people sin they are fooled and tricked, thinking there is something there. Experiencing something tangible, which causes oneself to turn to sexual sin because there is something wanted there. To the addict – You think you’re getting something, but in reality you’re out of control, being taken advantage of – not the other way around.

So, to begin with trust in God even though you may not quite see this reality. Believe that this is the right thing to do. Eventually, a person can get to a place where nothing of value or enjoyable is seen in pornography or sexual sin. 

Important question to ask yourself

The question I asked myself was and a question you need to ask yourself or inquire of someone else is: “how much do you want to be free and are you willing to do whatever it takes?”

The best book I read regarding this serious physical and spiritual issue is The Game Plan by Joe Dallas. I think the book was good for me because it has a practical plan to follow and is biblical. Another book that I read is Every Man’s Battle by Arterburn and Stoeker.

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